Each person concerned comes to this realisation at a different point in time, but it often comes unnecessarily early because we allow ourselves to be put under excessive pressure by false expectations.
From a medical point of view, we usually speak of an infertility after one year of unsuccessful attempts, but we will see that this figure does not apply to everyone.
We all know from films that someone accidentally has unprotected sex and then immediately becomes pregnant unintentionally. Yes, these cases do exist, but they are much more of an exception than we think. But if it doesn't work for us the first time, we already fear that something is wrong.
We all have that one friend who loudly and smugly blurts out at the barbecue that this time it hit the bull's eye and she got pregnant straight away - we never know if that's really true.
From a purely medical point of view, there is a 15-25% chance of getting pregnant per cycle (of the woman - and that's 50% of the team). However, this depends on age, physical condition, partner and many other factors.
Nevertheless, we calculate in our heads that it will work out in a maximum of four to five months.
If it hasn't worked out in the fourth month, we automatically expect that it will definitely be our turn in the fifth month.
But it's not quite that simple. If we try to roll a certain number with a dice from a standing start, it often takes more than six attempts. Getting pregnant is like a lottery in which you have a 1 in 5, 1 in 4, 1 in 15 or whatever chance every month, but that doesn't mean that the probabilities are worked through in sequence and you are necessarily pregnant after X months.
Let's imagine that two individual cells ultimately give rise to a miracle that has an incredible number of functions. A baby has all of the predispositions that will allow it to become an adult later on. It has a functioning body, it already has, for example, the ability to develop teeth and many other things. There are therefore millions of factors, of branches that a development has to take in order to create a living human being in the end.
The fact that a pregnancy does not occur sometimes has to do with the fact that the eggs and/or sperm are not genetically perfect.
So if in the end a million steps have to fit and there is a mistake at step 999,999, you were extremely close, but it still wasn't quite enough. Nevertheless, 999,999 points were fine. Against this background, odds of 1:5 are extremely high when so many things have to fit together.
If someone also suffers from medical restrictions, the odds can drop accordingly. However it is normal that only a certain percentage of our eggs/sperms are genetically ok, this is simply an effect of human evolution.
There is also additional pressure from Dr Google, where people (yes I know - I did it too...) often google such odds in their distress, but without being able to fully reflect their own medical situation.
Against the background of a monthly lottery instead of a fully comprehensive guarantee, it is therefore much easier to assess the realistic chances of pregnancy.
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