All moms and dads who have lost a baby will find some inspiration in this article on how to celebrate anniversaries with love.
Remembering a stillborn child is always painful. Nevertheless, there are ways and possibilities to lovingly honor the memory, which makes it easier for us to deal with it over time.
I am firmly convinced that the little souls are still with us. They are simply not physically there, but we can feel them and we maintain a connection with them. The more we realize that they are always with us, the easier it is to learn to live with them. The thought that my stillborn babies are always with me fills me with a deep sense of peace and inner calm, because I can connect with them in my thoughts at any time. Not everyone can see angels.
Here are a few ideas on how you can lovingly integrate the memory of your stillborn baby into your everyday life:
Put up a picture in a very special place in your home that is reserved just for it. Greet it every morning and say goodbye to it every evening.
If you like, place a candle next to it and light it again and again.
Create something artistic on the anniversary, e.g. a calligraphic picture of the name, date, etc. Art and colors, but also music, are good for the soul.
Talk to your stillborn baby and tell it that it always has a place in your heart. Talking about it makes it easier for our soul to deal with it.
If it feels good for you, look at memorial objects on the anniversary. This may be too overwhelming at first and will only make sense to you after several years.
Don't plan any appointments on this day that could be emotionally challenging. Dedicate the day just to you, your partner and the stillborn baby.
Choose a star in the sky that you can look at every evening, no matter where you are.
Consciously remember the sillborn baby, e.g. through a prayer or a conversation. It is best to do this together with your partner. This can be very emotional, but a conscious remembrance usually leaves a peaceful feeling.
Plant a little tree that you can let grow. Every time you look at it, remember that it is here and thriving on behalf of your stillborn baby.
Consciously remember the beautiful moments that you associate with your stillborn baby, e.g. the moment when you found out that you were pregnant or the place where you found out.
Let the day go again and take time to rebuild yourself.
Comments